Day 1-3
Find your target. Find a way in. Find connections. Find common interest. Dive in.
This is something that I haven't always been good at. "Hooking" guys is not easy for me. However, I have recently been learning the in and outs for getting the guy that you're crushing on.
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Recently I've even observing and experiencing different ways to find connections. Even potentially finding that guy that you want in just a few short days.
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Within the past few weeks I have found a boy that I wanted to get to know. The past few days I decided to take action. Follow along with me while I give you a few tips what could work to get the boy you want.
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Find your target
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This can be literally anyone. Find that guy that you think you want to be with. Someone that you could find interest in and attraction.
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Find a way in/making a connection
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If this is someone that you should be getting to know, you'll find those connections. For some people, its literally just going up to them saying, "hey" or for others, they try to make their presence known through actions. Somethings just fall into place (if you're lucky)
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Find common interest
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Once you have gotten out of that awkward stage of getting this boy to like you. You are now talking to him. Find different things that you're interested. You have to ask the awkward get to know you questions first. There is really no skipping them.
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Dive in
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Now is your shot, just go for it. You miss 100% of the shots that you don't take. Make sure that you communicate with them, and make sure that you're on the same page.
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Playing with people's emotions is never fun, so always be careful and sincere with what you are telling this person. So I can't make any promises that this will work, but some how, the past 3 days, it has totally worked.
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Good luck!!
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Hello my loves! My name is Madeleine Johnson. I'm here to help you out with the boy that you've been hard core crushing on the past few weeks. It's time for you to get out of your comfort zone and just GO FOR IT! I haven't had much success, but I have failed several times. I'm going through the same journey with you. I am actually trying to get this guy I've been admiring for a while now. I'm letting you know what I do to help you out a little bit. Good luck on this journey, I'm right there with you!
If you have any questions EVER! Reach out to me through social media!
Day 4-6
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These next few days should be picking up. You should be getting him hooked if things are going well. Maybe you are together everyday, or maybe you just talk everyday. Don't be stressed out if you haven't been talking everyday though. Through my experience, these days were probably the hardest.
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Let's get real.
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Some guys that you really want to be with, aren't the guys that you will find in 10 days. This entire process is really quick. It may feel like its a lifetime, but looking back, it all goes so fast.
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I'm going to let you in on what happen with my guy on days 4-6.
So I am a "textbook over thinker". I saw another girl on my guy's snapchat story, and I freaked out. I was upset because I really like this guy and I thought that maybe this would work out for me. I had found out through other people that he was a player. I was discouraged. We didn't talk for a few days, and I thought "well this is it".
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As I was talking to one of my friends, she had told me, why take information from someone else, that could be totally false and not give the guy you really like a chance. I thought she was right. I decided that I wouldn't give up on this guy. I would be so cautious and I would keep my guard up. I already have some crazy trust issues due to previous relationships, so trusting someone is already so hard for me.
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He came over later, and things went so well.
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*disclaimer - I'm TOTALLY letting you into this, so I need to be open with all these topics*
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We were with my roommates and we were making French toast and watching Harry Potter. He was being playful with me in the kitchen. Throwing things at me, tickling me, and giving me this biggest hugs. My roommates got the hint, and they left.
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We sat on the couch watching the rest of the movie, all cuddled up together. I fell asleep. Not surprising. I woke up when the movie ended, and we talked for a while after. Talking about just anything that we could talk about. He tickled me a lot more, then all the sudden. It happened. He kissed me. The boy that I had liked for WEEKS just kissed me. We talked for a while after. He kissed me goodnight and he left.
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That was the best night ever.
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A few nights later, he came over again to see me and watch The Bachelor with me. We were making small talk just like last time. He kissed me again. We were playing around the living room. He was making me laugh and making me feel like I was the most special girl in the world. He kissed me goodnight again and left.
The next day, he asked me on a date. No, this would not be the first date. We are hiking R mountain in the dead of winter. I think I'll get hypothermia, but if I'm with him, its worth it.
Here is my advice for you. Just go for it. If this "relationship" is something you're willing to get out of your comfort zone, then do it. You can do this. If you're dealing with a player, just be careful. Don't let your guard down too quickly because the chances of a heartbreak are high. However, you could be the girl that the guy decided he doesn't want to be a player anymore. Show him that. Show him how special you are. Seriously, JUST GO FOR IT.
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Day 7-10
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Are you ready to finish this thing up?
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These last few days are it. I'm not going to say that you're going to be in a relationship by the end of these 10 days, but you will have a good idea as to where this whole thing is headed.
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A few things to ask yourself:
-Is this someone that treats me well?
-Do I want to continue to spend a lot of time with this guy?
-Does he make me feel safe?
-How does he act around my friends?
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If you like the answer to those questions, then maybe this is something that is worth putting effort into.
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Don't be stressed if the relationship isn't progressed as far as you would like it. Like I said previously, this entire process is extremely fast. Keep going at the speed that you want to.
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My guy and I, are still progressing everyday. We're working towards that point that we both want to be at. Which potentially could be a realtionship. It could be another month, or it could be another two weeks. Take your time. Don't set your time tables by your friends or other people.
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What if this is something that you don't want to continue?
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Please let the poor boy down easy. The chances of him liking you are high.
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There is one last piece of advice I have for you. Avoid one word in all of your conversations with this boy. If you avoid this word, there are high changes this will work for you.
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The word is:
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Friends.
Final Thoughts
So I'm tired of telling this story. This story makes my heart hurt. I wasn't heartbroken by this. Just disappointed. It turned out that all the rumors that someone was telling me, were true. Everything about him being a player, was true. He had about seven other girls, the same time that he had me. It makes me sick thinking that someone would hurt someone like that.
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I have learned a lot more than what I thought I would from this process. I learned my self-worth, but more importantly, what I deserve. I deserve someone's first choice that they want to be with. Us girls, get so caught up in how we want to be treated. We want to be respected. We want affection. We want small gestures. However, sometimes we get so caught up in guys checking off all of our boxes, that we forget that we need to show the guy affection, small gestures, and respect.
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Ladies, treat your men with respect. They deserve the world, too. I can't wait to show someone that kind of love someday. Although Tanner turned out to be just like the rest of them that have played me.